Well, Marie — it may have taken you ten years to figure out this hack, but I never figured out either one:
A decade ago I figured out that when unloading the dishwasher I should immediately remove the silverware container from the dishwasher and put it on the counter above the drawer. That put the most dangerous things out of reach and I could focus on unloading the rest of the dishwasher. This week (10 years and four kids later) I figured out that to reload the dishwasher, I should remove the silverware container and place it in or next to the sink. That keeps the most dangerous things out of reach as I load everything.