IT CAN BE DONE. From Linda:
Here’s how I manage to load and unload the dishwasher with a toddler (18 months) who wants to be involved with EVERYTHING I do: while she is sitting in her toddler chair, I give her the utensils rack from the dishwasher and several spoons. The other morning she spent several minutes – yes, minutes! – moving the spoons around to the different compartments while I was able to unload and load the dishwasher. She likes having the shiny, grown-up spoons and the power to decide which spoon goes where. I like having a few minutes to deal with the rest of the dishware.