When my son was born, my life was bisected into seemingly unrelated halves: "before kids" and "after kids." More than six years into it, I can look back on my evolving life as a mother with some perspective, but during the early years, I often felt bewildered by my new role, and unsure where to turn for camaraderie. Reading didn’t help much; I didn’t see myself reflected in most of the parenting books or mags.
Since then, much has been written in print and on the Web about the realities of ‘modern’ parenting. A growing body of literature — I include blogs here — comforts and instructs parents, not by offering expert advice, but by providing a window into the real-life experiences of other parents.
Here are a few of my current favorites:
- The Andrea Buchanan oeuvre: Mother Shock: Loving Every (Other) Minute of It, It’s a Boy, Literary Mama: Reading for the Maternally Inclined (print anthology). It’s a Girl will be out soon, and I don’t doubt it will be fantastic.
- Brain, Child magazine
- Hip Mama zine, edited by Ariel Gore
- Writing Home, by Cindy La Ferle
- Mothers Who Think, edited by Camille Peri and Kate Moses
- Literary Mama
- Mothers Movement Online
- Babycenter and Parentcenter
- The Imperfect Parent
- urbanMamas (I blog here, too, but only recently — before that I turned to it for local mama community)
- Salon.com Life has a good essay on family life now and then, but I miss its original incarnation, Mothers Who Think, including the fantastic columns by Anne Lamott.
What parenting books/sites/blogs do you find yourself turning to again and again?