Dennis in Eugene, OR offers a suggestion for easing the chore wars:
Keep your kid company when they’re doing their chores. My daughter hated clearing the table and doing dishes until we figured out the problem: after dinner we would retire to the living room to talk and she felt left out. Now we continue to sit at the table to talk and include her in the conversation. She does a much better job in the kitchen and often tells us that she’s OK and we can go into the living room to chat if we want to.