Dennis in Eugene, OR wrote us a lovely email full of tips he’s collected as his daughter has grown. Here’s one about clothes shopping during the middle kid years (7-11):
Whenever my daughter and I shopped I would point out something I liked and she would make a gagging sound or roll her eyes. It didn’t seem to matter what I pointed out, the result was the same. Clothes shopping became a power struggle and was definitely not fun. One day I decided that we would go to a few stores AND NOT BUY ANYTHING. We would just show each other the kinds of clothes we liked and talk about why each of us liked or disliked them. It was so liberating! I learned a ton about her tastes and she learned something about my concerns about clothes being functional, easy to care for, etc. Ever since then all of our shopping trips have been fun. I think the secret was to eliminate the pressure so that we could both look at the selections objectively and learn each others tastes and considerations.